So you want to add some kink to your bedroom play? Before you grab that tie and paddle, read these 4 things you need to know before you try BDSM. If there’s anything we’ve learned working in this industry is so many people attempt participating in BDSM play without first learning the ropes. (Pun intended)

Here we round up the 4 most important things you need to know before you try BDSM.

1. You have to talk to your partner first.

If you’ve recently become interested in trying BDSM then you know you’re going to have to talk to your partner about it. Having the conversation prior to your first encounter is much better than just showing up in leather with a riding crop in your hand… unless of course you know they’re into that sort of thing in which case you’ve probably already had “the talk”. If you haven’t and you’re wondering where to start read: Bringing up BDSM.

2. With great power comes great responsibility

Being the dominant in a relationship is more than just basking in the pleasure of spanking your partner until they yell out their safe word. BDSM relationships must be built on trust, and knowing that your dominant will be there to take care of you in the end, both physically and emotionally. Before you take on the role, read more about How to Be a Good Dom.

3. Consent and Communication are the cornerstone of a successful BDSM relationship

BDSM relationships are often depicted as one sided in movies and books, and it is a common misconception that real life BDSM relationships are the same way. Truth is, BDSM relationships are probably the most honest and communicative relationships out there. Consent is the most important part of the deal and without it, play can’t take place. Knowing and understanding this concept is super important and you should know the details of what to talk about during your consent conversation.

4. Safety is of the Highest Priority

If you’ve been exposed to the BDSM world you know there is a lot a spanking, hitting, tying, hanging, fire play, electro play, you name it… it’s probably happening. Of course no one wants to have to call 911 and explain what just happened to them, so it’s a good idea to take precautions along the way. What happens in the bedroom stays in the bedroom. Read more about safety during BDSM play.

Now that you know the rules of engagement and are ready to get down to business check out 3 Basic techniques for BDSM Play.

 

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