Hey kids, Missy Martinez here! I’ve been an “adult star”/“mattress actress”/“porn star” (whichever name you prefer) for almost 9 years. In my almost-decade-long career I’ve managed to pick up a few tips, tricks and activities that can help put the XXX back in your SEX life! I narrowed it down to 3 main points which I call “The 3 C’s Of Coitus.”

 

COMMUNICATION:

Yes, I know this sounds obvious, but communication is much more than just letting your partner know what you want. Dirty talk is a simple, easy addition you can throw in to your normal sex routine that will have SCORCHING results. You don’t have to be a porn star to have a “spicy” vocabulary or have porn monologues memorized. In the bedroom, you can be devilishly descriptive of the emotions and feelings your body is experiencing during the act. “Your cock feels huge in my little pussy” “Do you like the way my cum tastes?” are just a few examples. You can dive in deeper by experimenting with pet names during the dirty deed. “Good little slut” “Bad Girl” “Big Dick Stud” are just some jumping off points. Your comfort level and imagination are your only limitations. A big portion of sex is foreplay and it can begin even when you both aren’t even in the same room. It can be something as simple as a text message sent to your partner while he/she is at work saying “I can’t wait to have your hands on me” “I want to taste you” “Let’s have some fun tonight” or even for the more adventurous “Shove your cock down my slutty little throat later/ I want to sit on your face and have you eat my pussy until I scream” The possibilities, combinations and naughtiness are endless! Not all communication has to be verbal, either. A picture is worth a thousand words, you know. Snap a quick pic of some “fun” body parts and send them to your partner randomly. Ladies, you can send your partner a suggestive and sexy photo of your cleavage, panties or in your birthday suit. Your imagination is the limit. Fellas, you can send your partner a picture of your hard cock through your pants or even the whole salami. DISCLAIMER: MAKE SURE YOUR PARTNER IS COMFORTABLE RECEIVING NUDE PICTURES! You can even go a step further and send GIFs of porn scenes to show your partner exactly what’s on your mind and what you want to do (one of my personal favorites.) It can be a GIF of pussy eating, deepthroating, anal or even passionate kissing. Communication is key!

COSTUMES:

You read that right. Halloween isn’t the only time of year to break out your sexy wardrobe. A large portion of the appeal in XXX scenes is the fantasy/role-play aspect. It’s an easy way to channel your inner sex machine and explore a different side of your personality, sexuality and switch up your normal bedroom routine. There are several iconic wardrobe options that never fail to get someone hot and bothered. For the ladies: Naughty Nurse, Sexy Maid and School Girl are iconic and time-tested staples. You don’t have to spend money to dress up either. Waiting for your partner to get home from work wearing nothing but stockings and heels is JUST as effective and trust me, you won’t be keeping those heels on for long…or maybe that can be part of it! For you bad boys out there: Doctor, Cop, Fireman and Pool Boy,are all tried and true XXX costumes that never fail. If you’re not comfortable shopping for such eclectic wardrobe, never underestimate the power of wearing a crisp suit or just some whipped cream covering your johnson. Thanks to www.HustlerHollywood.com, you can find affordable and sexy clothing without having to leave your living room. Remember: undressing is the best part of costumes, so make sure to take your time while unwrapping your naughty present.

CURIOSITY:

Curiosity and willingness to try new things in the bedroom is a critical aspect to having a hot and healthy sex life. The day you stop exploring new avenues of pleasure is a sad one. Experimenting with new positions is an easy way to keep things in the bedroom interesting. Go to your local bookstore (or online) and pick up a copy of the Kama Sutra. Spend an evening (or hell, an entire weekend) recreating and trying the unique and exciting positions not traditionally performed. Even if you collapse in laughter at some of the more “creative” poses, you’ll have had fun and tried something new! Exploring new fetishes/genres is another way to keep your sexual curiosity active. If you’re not so sure you want or are ready to dive straight in to whips, chains and car batteries, consider these simple and not-so-intimidating options:

-Food Play: Grab a can of whipped cream, strawberries or chocolate syrup and let your imagination (and tongue) take over! Showering off the mess afterwards can be JUST as fun too *WINK WINK* -Light Bondage: Grab a scarf, tie or even novelty handcuffs and loosely tie your partner to the bed. The inability to move freely is an amazing way to focus on the sensations, tingles and throbs coursing through your body while you’re immobile. Take turns and push the limits of teasing until neither one of you can contain yourselves any longer
Sex Toys: Toys have a bad reputation in the bedroom and have been portrayed as “replacements” when in reality they are ENHANCERS. Now, you don’t have to go out and buy a rubber fist (yes, I DO own one) but you can start with vibrating panties that come with a remote control. Take your partner to the movies, dinner or even a leisurely stroll through the park. Have your partner wear the vibrating undies while you have the remote control. Spend an entire day just buzzing your partners most sensitive areas, making them moan in ecstasy and begging for more. The people in line at the pretzel stand will be curious as to why you’re so hot and bothered over salted baked goods, so beware! Anal toys (male AND female) are another often looked over sexual enhancer. It’s not for everyone, but that’s why curiosity and experimentation are so important. You just might learn something new about your body and discover a new enjoyable hole. Plugs, beads and dildos for that naughty orifice come in a variety of sizes ranging from pencil size all the way up to baseball bats. Depending on your level of experience/comfort/courage, you can definitely find the right size and shape to help you comfortably and safely explore this new avenue. Fingers, tongues and lips are great for those who aren’t ready or comfortable with penetration as well.
No matter how you choose to experiment, make sure you and your partner are both on the same page, are comfortable and are in a safe and trusted environment.

Well, there you go, kids! Now, go make me proud and cum hard!!

 

About The Author

Missy Martinez

Missy Martinez is a 9 year xxx industry veteran. She is an AVN award winner, Hustler Covergirl and a Doc Johnson contract model.

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